A VIDEO

Hello, my name is Andrea Lindsay and my business is called HALO Therapies. Hopefully you’ve had a chance to watch Career Change Part 1. If not, take the opportunity now, to go back and watch it and then come back to the 2nd part when you’ve had a chance to complete the first set of exercises. For those of you who are ready for part 2 — here goes!

George Bernard Shaw said “The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them.”

So, have you made your circumstances yet, or are you still looking for reasons why not to?

You’ll recall that in Part 1, you reflected upon a number of areas including; what you excel at, significant achievements, what you need to make you happy in a job and crucial things to enable you to achieve the work life balance that you really want. I also invited you to get some feedback from your family and friends about what they think you excel at and what limitations or excuses they’ve heard you use to avoid doing things or dealing with things. Well, today we are going to look at limitations, or more specifically, self-imposed limitations, in more detail. They could be excuses you’ve used and maybe even continue to use, perceptions or just habitual behaviours that have affected your career choices.

The first thing I’d like you to do, is to think about phrases or statements that either you have used, or you’ve heard others use about you and have then used them yourself, or, produced behaviours or actions that have affected your career choices in some way. Examples that other people have used include:

"I’m not good enough"
"I can’t stand up for myself"
"I make assumptions about other people’s perceptions of me"
"I make excuses for my lack of motivation"
"I am lazy"
"I don’t like change"

Now, get ready to pause this recording for a moment or two so that you can write down your own 3 limitations - now.

So, how did you get on? How easy or difficult was it to come up with your own examples? Were you honest with yourself about the excuses you’ve used in the past? Recognising that you’ve been using excuses is the first step to changing.

I’d now like you to think about the cost of these limitations and the negative effects on you and your life, for example, a missed job opportunity such as a potential promotion, or even avoiding the opportunity to make a new career choice, maybe a relationship breakdown or perhaps money problems.

So, get ready to pause this recording for a moment or two so that you can write down your 3 examples of where limitations have negatively impacted your life - now.

What did you come up with? How different could your life have been, had you not used these limitations or excuses? How often have you considered these thoughts before, but didn’t want to admit that you actually had a choice in the matter? 


Since becoming a therapist, I’ve learned about something called ‘secondary gains’. One of the definitions of this term is:

"An indirect benefit, usually obtained through an illness or debility. Such gains may include monetary and disability benefits, personal attention, or escape from unpleasant situations and responsibilities"

So, what does this mean? Well, the focus is on the gain resulting from the behaviour. A secondary gain occurs when there is any perceived gain from behaving in a certain way. Let me give you an example.

Why do smokers smoke? Everyone knows that smoking is bad for you, that it can kill you and can have an adverse affects on those around you, such as your children. But — people still smoke — why? Because of the secondary gain, the perceived stress relief from smoking a cigarette, the social aspect of enjoying a cigarette with your friends, the opportunity to take a break, or to gather your thoughts. We know that the nicotine is out of your body within 48 hours of stopping smoking. The nicotine is the addictive chemical. If this is the case, why do so many people return to smoking? Well, it’s because of the psychological ‘gains’ from the habit. If you stop the habit, you stop the gain! 

Let’s think about potential gains and the excuses you might use to maintain these gains. Some of the reasons other people have used include:
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A VIDEO

Hello, my name is Andrea Lindsay and my business is called HALO Therapies. I started my business in March 2004, just 2 months before my youngest daughter was born! You, like me, might be considering a career change due to a change in family circumstances, or perhaps you’ve just had enough of working for someone else and want to work for yourself! Whatever the reason, keep listening, as I am going to help you find out a bit more about yourself and how to make the right career choice to help you get the life you want!

Aldus Huxley, the author of Brave New World said “I wanted to change the world. But I have found that the only thing one can be sure of changing is oneself.”
So, is it time for a change for you? Or more specifically, time for a career change?
Perhaps you’ve been thinking about a job change for a while, but just didn’t know where to begin!

One of the mistakes we can often make when considering a change of job is to think of ourselves as a job title. Maybe you see yourself as a secretary or IT consultant or marketing manager or retail assistant? If this is how think about yourself, the chances are you are limiting your options! 

You are most definitely NOT a job title!! You are a unique set of capabilities and personal attributes made up of a lifetime of experience — your lifetime. You are the sum of the life you have led which means you have developed a whole range of skills and experiences both in and outside of work. 

So, instead of thinking about yourself as a job title, I’d like you to begin to think about your skills and capabilities. Grab a piece of paper, your IPAD, your smart-phone, your pc whatever device you have and start begin by writing down 3 skills that you believe you excel at. People sometimes find it tricky to write down nice things about themselves. We are taught to be modest, not to boast or show off. Well this is your opportunity to sing your praises! To think about just how good you really are! If you can’t identify your own strengths, don’t expect anyone else too! Now is the time to be honest with yourself about what you really think you are good at … and it could be anything! It could be your listening skills, it could be your IT skills, it could be your cake baking skills, your organisation skills or even your ironing skills! Anything goes! So, get ready to pause this recording for a moment or two, whilst you grab your paper, your IPAD whatever and write down the 3 things you excel at…now.
So, how did you get on? Did you manage to find 3 things that you excel at? Well I hope so! If not, keep thinking and come back to the list later.

The next thing I’d like you to do is reflect back on your achievements. If you’re not sure of what an achievement actually is, one dictionary definition says it is the “final accomplishment of something noteworthy, after much effort and often in spite of obstacles and discouragements”. So with that in mind get ready to pause this recording and spend a moment or two thinking about your achievements and make a note of 3 things that you are proud of…now.

What did you come up with? Did you manage to recall something that stands out in your mind? Something that maybe you didn’t think you could, or perhaps never thought you would achieve?
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A QUOTE

I do my thing and you do your thing.
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations,
And you are not in this world to live up to mine.
You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it’s beautiful.
If not, it can’t be helped.

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A TEXT POST

The good kind of change.

certainlychristine:

Holy shiz, I feel great (:

I think its time for change again. No more slipping into something that I don’t want to be. I’m going to do my 300-500 crunches a day to get my smaller stomach back, going to catch up on my AP classes on Saturdays so I can play Guild Wars 2 all of Sunday without worrying, try to go to the gym at least twice a week, and learn to balance my life.

As my Russian substitute in Japanese class said today,

Its okay to love yourself.

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A VIDEO

How To Achieve What You Want

How To Achieve Goals

Have you given up your ideas for working at home and making money already? Maybe you have some great ideas for a new online business but haven’t got going yet as you are so busy juggling work and family commitments. Have a look at the cycle of change below. This is based on Gestalt’s understanding of our biological and social needs. Gestalt therapy is an existential/experiential form of psychotherapy that emphasizes personal responsibility. What stage are your goals at?

Awareness Stage

This is the starting point for any change or goal. First, there is awareness of dissatisfaction or a new need in your life. Think about the simple need to have a drink. You might feel a little thirsty but can you ignore it? Perhaps you can for a while if you’re busy. Eventually, though, you get a headache and can’t concentrate until getting a drink becomes the most important thing you must do, until your thirst is quenched. It is the same with a personal goal. The more dissatisfied you are with your current work and life balance, the stronger your need for change will be until you are compelled to act. You might feel that you want to go freelance or set up your own business but if you feel very fairly comfortable where you are, there won’t be sufficient motivation to energise change.

1. Remove The Shoulds

Mobilisation Stage

This is the stage where you feel the most excited and energised for what you are about to do and you’ll be thinking about all your options ideas for starting a business. If you start off really excited about a new goal and then all that motivation and energy fizzles before you have made any real progress — the chances are you’re being overambitious. Too much excitement can colour our judgement on our choices and direction. Equally, if you’re one of those people who say: “I don’t want to get too excited in case it doesn’t happen”, then you could be draining the energy from the start-up before you’ve had a chance to create it. You need to mobilize energy to create change.

2. Remove Unrealistic Options

3. Find A Supporter

Action Stage

This is when you start to experiment with different types of actions to achieve your goals. So many resolutions are lost at this stage when the reality of achieving the goal becomes clear. If you are trying to start a new online business it is often much harder and takes longer to achieve than first thought. I know how hard this can be. You just need to keep moving forward to achieve your goals. If you are getting stuck at this stage the chances are that you’re being too much of a perfectionist and expecting to get great results all the time. It is easy then to feel demoralised and give up too soon. To achieve satisfaction requires lots of action!

4. Experiment And Be Flexible

5. Face Your Fears

6. Be Kind To Yourself

7. If It’s Not Working, Do Something Else

Satisfaction And Celebration Stage

This is the stage when the project or goal is completed and satisfaction is reached. If you are the sort of person who has many half-finished projects still open waiting to be completed then you probably feel that your goals never get completed. However, you might have achieved more of your goal than you think. Many of us have the tendency to look at what hasn’t been achieved rather than savouring the pleasure of what has. “I’ve got one client but I wanted it to be five”; “I’ve got my website up but not enough traffic”. It is also very British to talk down our achievements. None of us want to be seen to be a ‘show off’, but celebrations are good for our morale, confidence and give closure to projects, which helps us to achieve new goals.

8. Appreciate Completion Of Goals

9. Celebrate Your Success

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